How Zodiac Compatibility is Key to Understanding Your Partner

November 15, 2021
Love + Sex

How Zodiac Compatibility is Key to Understanding Your Partner

November 15, 2021

While there’s more to relationships than zodiac signs alone, looking at the astrology of love can tell us more about ourselves, our partners, and our relationships. Knowing someone’s sun sign can show you a glimpse into how well you get along romantically and sexually. Check out our guide for finding your most compatible zodiac match and how to use your birth chart to find your astrological soulmate!

Most astrologers agree that romantic compatibility relies on your full birth chart compatibility – however you can find out a lot of information about your compatibility using just your sun sign. 

Your sun sign is the part of your personality that spends the most time in the spotlight. From an astrological perspective, your sun sign represents the core of your confidence, identity, and ego. When you and your crush have compatible sun signs – it means you see the brightest parts of each other's personality in each other. 

Beginner’s Guide to Relationship Astrology

Using our compatibility guide is easy. Choose your sign and then enter the sign of your partner, friend, or crush to calculate your love compatibility with our free zodiac compatibility calculator. From there you can find your sign and your partner's sign below and discover the best ways to slide into your crush's DMs – along with tips on how to understand each other’s needs and personality traits.

How to Date an Aries

🎁 Birthday: March 21 – April 19

💋 Type: Fire & Air signs

🥂 Date Spot: That fancy new restaurant in town

As the first sign of the zodiac – Aries isn’t afraid to take charge. Confident, cool, and competitive, Aries love feeling like the main priority in love. Passion is a make or break deal for fire sign Aries – they tend to lose feelings fast if they’re not feeling the heat.

What's Aries looking for in a relationship?

Aries are prideful, flashy, and enjoy the chase. They will often shower romantic partners with bold displays of affection, extravagant gifts, and over the top showmanship. Aries are used to having to take charge of every aspect of everyday life. The best way to charm an Aries is to empower their shine. Never make the mistake of trying to reign an Aries woman – Aries love to be challenged. Instead – celebrate the brightest parts of their fiery personality and hype up their go-getter attitude.

How to Date a Taurus

🎁 Birthday: April 20 – May 20

💋 Type: Water & Earth signs

🥂 Date Spot: Couples night at the botanical gardens

As the second sign of the zodiac, Taurus' are heavily influenced by their personal values. Taurus is also ruled by Venus - the planet of attraction and romance. These cool customers are secretly one of the most romantic signs of the zodiac.

What's Taurus looking for in a relationship?

Good things take time and Taurus’ have no trouble putting in the effort. When dating a Taurus – be sure to express your appreciation for their thoughtfulness. They may act aloof but words of appreciation go a long way with Taurus. Taurus adores a slow-burn romance! When courting a Taurus - take your time getting to know them and learning the details of their personality. It’s also important to communicate your values in a relationship early and upfront to ensure you’re on the same page. But the most important thing to remember? Never take a Taurus for granted!

How to Date a Gemini

🎁 Birthday: May 21 – June 20

💋 Type: Fire & Air signs

🥂 Date Spot: Trivia night at your favorite restaurant or bar

Gemini is the third sign of the zodiac and ruled by communication–focused Mercury. They have the gift of gab and are natural charmers when it comes to dating. These bubbly socialites might seem like they have their head in the clouds – but it takes a true mental connection to keep them coming back for more!

What's Gemini looking for in a relationship?

Geminis have the gift of enthusiasm and can talk almost anyone into any idea if given enough time. When dating a Gemini, you should be ready to frequently hang out with their friends. While many signs keep a tight social circle, your Gemini partner will likely have a new activity planned for every night of the week! But it’s not just their social lives that run at a thousand miles a minute – their mind is racing as well. Be ready for quick conversations, exciting new adventures, and a relationship that is sure to challenge you mentally. 

LEARN MORE: The Mercury Triad – Your Romantic Communication Style

How to Date a Cancer

🎁 Birthday: June 21 – July 22

💋 Type: Water & Earth signs

🥂 Date Spot: A night in together with dinner and a movie

Cancer is the fourth sign of the zodiac and is heavily influenced by the moon. The moon in astrology rules emotion and  intuition. It’s also the part of your personality typically kept hidden from others. This means while Cancers have a charming and nurturing personality on the surface – there’s much more lurking under the surface.

What's Cancer looking for in a relationship?

Cancers love to foster close-knit, nurturing relationships. While their ‘mom friend’ energy may give the appearance that they have it together – Cancer needs to know that there’s security in a relationship. Cancer likes to feel close to their partner and goes out of their way to take care of people and expect that same level of security from their ideal partner. When it comes to charming a Cancer, your best bet is to do things by the book. No sign appreciates a romantic comedy style romance more than nurturing, sensitive Cancer. 

How to Date a Leo

🎁 Birthday: July 23 – August 22

💋 Type: Fire & Air signs

🥂 Date Spot: Karaoke night with a group of friends

Leo is the fifth sign of the zodiac and is ruled by the fiery energy of the sun. Your sun sign is the brightest spot of your personality and Leos have no trouble standing in the spotlight. There’s a certain dazzling charm Leo embodies. While some may mistake their confidence for ego – there’s no more loyal, brave, and passionate sign than Leo.

What's Leo looking for in a relationship?

The quickest way to charm a Leo is to be bold. Creative Leo is attracted to people, places, and things that are as vibrant and unique as they are. While they may seem too cool for school – Leos actually require a lot of reassurance in both their ideas, jokes, and leadership skills. Leos also require a partnership full of excitement and adventure. This creative sign may seem like an impossible catch at first but like with many fire signs, they thrive in relationships built on passion and romance. 

How to Date a Virgo

🎁 Birthday: August 23 – September 22

💋 Type: Water & Earth signs

🥂 Date Spot: An exclusive wine and cheese tasting event

Virgo is the sixth sign of the zodiac and is ruled by Mercury – (along with fellow mutable sign Gemini). Virgos are known for their keen attention to detail, practical approach to conflict, and tendency to play their emotions close to the chest. They feel the most valued in a relationship when they are in service to others and given that same respect back.

What's Virgo looking for in a relationship?

Virgos don’t suffer from indecisiveness. They know exactly what they want and won’t settle until they find a partner who fits into their lifestyle. When a Virgo decides that they do like someone, it usually gets serious fast. While they may seem like the ultimate perfectionist, Virgos can be very self–critical. When it comes to romantic relationships Virgos thrive in partnerships where they feel empowered to let their hair down. This mutable earth sign pairs best with dreamy water signs who know how to be vulnerable emotionally. 

How to Date a Libra

🎁 Birthday: September 23 – October 23

💋 Type: Fire & Air signs

🥂 Date Spot: Drinks, dinner, and dancing the night away 

Libra is the seventh sign of the zodiac and is influenced by romantic Venus. They’re also the zodiac sign most closely associated with marriage and long–term partnerships. This gives them a natural flirty communication style – it’s easy to see why people love to love Libras. But under the surface of this sweet personality is the bold energy of a leader. They may seem cool on the surface but make no mistake – Libras love being in charge!

What's Libra looking for in a relationship?

Libras find their deepest connections in life by forming intimate relationships with others. Though they thrive in close partnerships, Libras need plenty of space in a relationship. Clingy behaviour and insecurity from a partner is an instant turn-off for naturally charming Libra. These Type-A personalities find transformation and change through meeting people in the middle. It may take some effort to get a Libra to open up about their emotions; which is why they tend to pair well with bold fire signs like Leo, Aries, and Sagittarius. 

How to Date a Scorpio

🎁 Birthday: October 24 – November 21

💋 Type: Water & Earth signs

🥂 Date Spot: A murder mystery dinner event

Scorpio is the eighth sign of the zodiac and ruled by passionate and aggressive Mars. Scorpios tend to have a reputation for being the ‘love em and leave em’ sign of the zodiac; but there’s more than meets the eye with Scorpio. 

What's Scorpio looking for in a relationship?

Water signs have a reputation for being emotional – but Scorpios are very private upon first meeting them.  It takes months or even years of building trust to learn the truth about what makes a Scorpio tick. The transformative energy of the 8th house means relationships are a huge point of growth and transformation for Scorpios. Above all else Scorpios value loyalty and commitment. They maintain a small circle of people they trust but these relationships tend to be very personal and intense. Scorpios fall fast when they’re interested in someone – even if it takes them a while to admit!

How to Date a Sagittarius 

🎁 Birthday: November 22 – December 21

💋 Type: Fire & Air signs

🥂 Date Spot: An cabin in the woods near plenty of hiking

Sagittarius is the ninth sign of the zodiac and is ruled by the energy of optimistic Jupiter. Fueled by their spontaneous mutable fire energy – Sagittarius values their freedom. This gives them a reputation for being hard to to figure out when it comes to love and relationships. 

What's Sagittarius looking for in a relationship?

Sagittarius’ are known for being super social and friendly to everyone they meet. This can make deciphering their flirting style difficult. The easiest way to tell if a Saggitarius is interested in someone is if they take the time to get to learn about them. Sagittarius is influenced by the 9H of knowledge, truth, and higher learning. This means Sagittarius sees romance as life's greatest adventure. In relationships, Sagittarius is optimistic, fun-loving, and freedom seeking. One thing’s for sure, it’s never a dull moment!

How to Date a Capricorn 

🎁 Birthday: December 22 – January 19

💋 Type: Water & Earth signs

🥂 Date Spot: An escape room for two – followed by dinner

Capricorn is the tenth sign of the zodiac and ruled by Saturn – the planet of tough love, structure, obligation, and ambition. While some may find their traditional ways a bit too stuffy, there’s an old school charm and ease about how Capricorns court the object of their romantic affection.

What's Capricorn looking for in a relationship?

Capricorn is the mature, authoritative daddy of the zodiac. A control freak in both the streets and the sheets – Capricorns are looking for a partner who enjoys being taken care of. But make no mistake, Capricorns do need reassurance that you have your shit together. While Capricorns tend to be serious about all things money and career, you may find yourself surprised by their dark and dry sense of humor. While it may seem hard to capture their attention in the early stages of dating, Capricorns become fully invested in their partner once they’ve made a commitment. 

How to Date an Aquarius

🎁 Birthday: January 20 – February 18

💋 Type: Fire & Air signs

🥂 Date Spot: The latest exhibit at the art gallery

Aquarius is the eleventh sign of the zodiac and known as the most independent and free-spirited sign. Aquarius cannot stand being told what to do or controlled in any manner – which makes relationships especially tricky. It’s important for Aquarius’ to find a partner who allows them to move freely through life and love.

What's Aquarius looking for in a relationship?

Aquarius’ are looking for a partner that pushes them to evolve and grow. Aquarius' ruling planet is unpredictable Uranus, which emboldens Aquarius' non-traditional way of approaching relationships. Never content in their current evolution, it’s not uncommon for Aquarius’ to find themselves drawn to other intellectual air signs Gemini and Libra. However, these out-of-the-box dreamers can be some of the most dreamy, romantic partners given the chance. Aquarius is the sign that rules friendship which means they are truly seeking a friend as much as they are seeking a partner in life. 

How to Date an Pisces

🎁 Birthday: February 19 – March 20

💋 Type: Water & Earth signs

🥂 Date Spot: A picnic for two in the park

Pisces is the twelfth and final sign of the zodiac. Influenced by the mystical and often misunderstood 12H, Pisces often lose themselves between the fantasy of relationships and reality of how much hard work they take. When looking for a partner, Pisces seek out open-minded, sensitive, creative individuals. 

What's Pisces looking for in a relationship?

As the mutable water sign Pisces are forever seeking a fairytale romance – with their partner of choice playing Prince Charming! Pisces wear their hearts on their sleeve, so Pisces tend to fall in love quickly. For this reason sensitive Pisces thrives in relationships with other emotionally sensitive signs. Pisces are some of the most emotional individuals of the zodiac which makes them ideal romantic partners. If you want to impress a Pisces, try appealing to their artistic side with music, art, or another creative medium. You may feel silly spilling your guts in a love poem – but your Pisces partner will love nothing more!

A Love Written in the Stars

When finding your perfect match there are quite a few elements in play. Interested in learning more about astrology and dating? Discover the ‘Top 3 Ways to Look for Love based on Your Birth Chart’ and more on The Rising.


Lauren Ash

Lauren Ash is a professional astrologer and founder of Lunar and Lilac Astrology. Follow her on TikTok and Instagram. You can read her work on The Rising or ask her a question on Hey Hero.

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